Q My boyfriend likes to chat during foreplay and sometimes during sex. It’s not seductive, it’s just chitter-chatter — catching up on what he’s done that day, discussing what to have for supper the next day. I tell him it’s not sexy, but he can’t seem to help himself. A During sex it is important to communicate likes and dislikes, or to agree on consent if you are pushing boundaries, but it is unusual to discuss dinner menus or what happened at the office. Sex is not a sacred ritual so silence is not obligatory, but because it engages the brain and the body, most people simply don’t have the mental capacity to shoot the…

Source: The Times May 31, 2019 23:03 UTC