And yet we do it all the same: We marry the wrong person. We marry the wrong people because we don’t associate being loved with feeling happy. We seem normal only to those who don’t know us very well. That is why what has replaced it — the marriage of feeling — has largely been spared the need to account for itself. Partly, it’s because we have a bewildering array of problems that emerge when we try to get close to others.

Source: New York Times May 28, 2016 18:22 UTC