A fairytale of newlywed effort, sure, but also an “Act of Service,” which is my “love language,” one of five ways of wanting to be loved, and showing love, explained in Gary Chapman’s socio-self-help book, The Five Love Languages. My husband Simon’s love language is “Physical Touch,” which felt, at first, insane to me, because touch can come from anywhere, unattached to devotion or care. Every love language has something to do in a relationship, somewhere, it’s just that I feel loved, most of all, when someone is willing to put their back into it, to show instead of tell - or touch - their love. “You exist,” it says, a gesture of empathy not because it’s just nice, but because it’s the kind of nice that I need. Follow her on Twitter and Instagram @KateCarraway and “like” her Facebook fan page at facebook.com/KateCarrawayWriting.

Source: thestar May 28, 2018 17:37 UTC