A couples’ therapist once told me that her motto was “A cup of tea gets you sex”. The 80/80 Marriage, A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Relationship, by the husband and wife Nate and Kaley Klemp, echoes this theme. Their concept is, rather than rigid insistence on fairness, you adopt an approach of “radical generosity” — with each partner trying to contribute 80 per cent to the marriage (you excuse the maths) and prioritise shared goals. Your success is my success. So the cup of tea principle, in effect.

Source: The Times March 25, 2021 00:00 UTC