We have long had a low-sex marriage but continue to share a lot. We have long had a low-sex marriage and now she has “come out” to herself and to me as a lesbian. You cannot “kill” your sex life and you shouldn’t try. • Pamela Stephenson Connolly is a psychotherapist who specialises in treating sexual disorders. • If you would like advice from Pamela Stephenson Connolly on sexual matters, send us a brief description of your concerns to private.lives@theguardian.com (please don’t send attachments).

Source: The Guardian September 11, 2017 06:56 UTC