I haven’t had sex with my wife since my youngest daughter’s birth six years ago. After the birth, I tried assisting my wife with her weight-loss efforts, but she ignored my advice. She also needs reassurance that you truly appreciate her, including her physical appearance. • Pamela Stephenson Connolly is a US-based psychotherapist specialising in sexual disorders. • If you would like advice from Pamela Stephenson Connolly on sexual matters, send us a brief description of your concerns to private.lives@theguardian.com (please don’t send attachments).

Source: The Guardian September 26, 2016 07:00 UTC