I get occasional bouts of herpes and as she is, understandably, worried about it, she insists I use a condom, which I hate. Neither of us has any libido and, to top it all, I have become a premature ejaculator. As you and your partner have discovered, physical changes associated with ageing, health issues or infection can have profound effects on intimacy. • Pamela Stephenson Connolly is a psychotherapist who specialises in treating sexual disorders. • If you would like advice from Pamela Stephenson Connolly on sexual matters, send us a brief description of your concerns to private.lives@theguardian.com (please don’t send attachments).

Source: The Guardian August 07, 2017 06:56 UTC