He recently moved away so we are currently in a long-distance relationship. I normally turn to porn, although I don’t really like it; I prefer the feeling of real sex or even video-sex with my partner. Managing your libido while trying to maintain a long-distance relationship is a torturous effort, so try to be more accepting of your human condition. You will know if you are overdoing it, as you will feel so compulsively driven to view porn that it will significantly interfere with the rest of your life. • If you would like advice from Pamela on sexual matters, send us a brief description of your concerns to private.lives@theguardian.com (please don’t send attachments).

Source: The Guardian September 08, 2020 06:56 UTC