Grudges can be good, actually, and we should hold onto some of them, like petty Tomagatchis in our emotional pocket. We don’t often associate the holding of grudges with virtuous people, but 2019 is a new year, new you. Sophie Hannah, who wrote “How to Hold a Grudge,” published Jan. 1, loves them. So much so that she holds each of her grudges in a special place, in her “grudge cabinet,” where she visits them and tends to them. “But there’s no dictionary definition I can find that doesn’t describe a grudge as a negative feeling, or a collection of negative feelings,” she said.

Source: New York Times January 02, 2019 15:00 UTC