Howard wanted to move beyond the monogamous model he had been raised with; I wanted to replicate it. “It’s easier if we both want to spend time with old lovers.”But my ex-boyfriend couldn’t deal with Howard, so I ended my attempt at ex-lover polyamory. Howard called polyamory “consensual non-monogamy,” meaning you could have sex with other people so long as all parties agreed. But many of the questions on sites providing advice about polyamory are from secondary partners who are jealous of their lover’s primary relationship. Ending my relationship with Howard wasn’t hard.

Source: New York Times March 23, 2018 03:56 UTC