Going out for a drink is a standard first date idea for many singles, but different rules apply if you’re sober. According to a 2014 survey by the dating app Plenty of Fish, 48.9 percent of singles reported consuming two to three drinks on a first date and 36.4 percent have had a drink before a first date. Unsurprisingly, then, alcohol is a topic that often surfaces quicker than other potential deal-breakers, like political beliefs or relationship history. Alcohol in Your Life“Some people identify drinking as, ‘We’re going to have fun’ and some people have the idea, ‘I don’t need alcohol to have fun,’” said Markesha Miller, a therapist based in Columbia, S.C. “That’s an important conversation that needs to happen in the getting-to-know-you stage — making sure your values align and the way couples spend time together aligns.”Everyone has different perspectives about imbibing, which can stem from a variety of experiences and religious beliefs, Dr. Miller said. These views and lifestyles can influence if and how a pair moves forward in a relationship, or even onto a second date.

Source: New York Times December 29, 2020 14:27 UTC