And so, my dating life became a rotation of white men who, in retrospect, viewed me as something between a conquest and a curiosity. The messaging was relentless: Asian men were nerdy, awkward “nice guys,” but never the ones who got the girl. I wasn’t just dating white men — I was competing with other AAPI women for their attention. Instead of seeking solace among other AAPI women, I retreated into a self-imposed exile, ashamed of my own scarcity mindset. White men were never the dream ― they were just the default, the easiest illusion to chase.

Source: Huffington Post March 17, 2025 12:21 UTC