And when tension goes unresolved, sex often fades, not because attraction is gone, but because emotional safety is. Dr DeSeta said: “If you feel unseen or stuck in “roommate mode,” sex can feel like an obligation rather than something playful. Repair doesn’t start in bed.”AdvertisementHer advice here is to pause physical intimacy and focus on emotional repair, through conversation and low-pressure touch. When discomfort shows up, the body tenses or avoids intimacy, which can lower desire over time. AdvertisementDr DeSeta agrees: “When your brain is fried from back-to-back holiday plans and nonstop conversations, it’s tempting to check out and start doomscrolling.

Source: Huffington Post January 25, 2026 15:04 UTC