You’re never bearing a wound because you’re never — There is no love without the fear of loss. So I think to want something that is idealized, that has no ripples, is not the best way to learn about love. gives us unconditional love, then is the human love that we’re seeking inherently conditional? Yes, yes, I do think in that kind of dialectic way. But also I have had many people in my office who really wanted unconditional love.

Source: New York Times January 30, 2026 03:16 UTC