Florian Schmetz/UnsplashI’m not sure why, but when it comes to not having kids, many want to pigeonhole us as either childless—we wanted kids and didn’t get them—or childfree—we chose not to have them. Truth is, individual circumstances and how we think about not having kids often fluxes over the course our lifetimes. Just as most parents continue to mature and change as a result of having kids, so do most of us who don’t ever have them. I discovered I’d seriously considered nearly every childbearing option, from not wanting kids to actively trying to make some. When a dear friend decided to start her family, I tried to join in so our kids could be buddies growing up.
