The relationship ends, the phone comes out, and, almost without thinking, you check your ex’s social media. But, over the past decade, psychological research has painted a less comforting picture: Repeatedly checking an ex-partner’s social media does not ease heartbreak. Relationships rarely end neatly, especially on social media, where personal stories can be left forever unfinished. Don’t keep checking their social media, and allow your old emotional ties to weaken naturally. “All of the research suggests that, if you can keep yourself away from social media for 30 days, it’s like a detox,” she said.