Advertisement“Not taking action in your life is sometimes also linked to not having a strong connection with yourself, so maybe those are two branches ... to happiness,” Siddiqi said. Instead of opening up Instagram or Facebook as soon as you wake up, open up your Notes app and write down five things you’re grateful for, she said. But when you push down deep-seated issues, you’re actually harming your happiness — and this especially goes for trauma, Moore-Lobban said. How do I want to do this life?” Lewis said. AdvertisementInstead of looking at happiness as a destination, think of it as the choices along the way, she noted.