But then the part of me that has spent over a decade as a gender specialist spoke louder: You don’t actually want to know. Advertisement AdvertisementAdvertisement AdvertisementBecause I know what happens when we find out the sex. I spend my professional life helping parents dismantle those narratives when they don’t match who their kid really is. By choosing not to know, I’m giving them a little more space to arrive in this world without everyone’s projections already waiting for them — space to simply be, before the world starts telling them who they’re supposed to be. The truth is, I don’t need to know the sex of my baby to know they are already a whole person.
