Divorced, I shared custody of our four children – now aged 24, 23, 19 and 13 – as they grew up. Only the youngest now lives with me, on alternate weeks, but the 19-year-old is at university, where accommodation charges don’t come cheap. The first thing I came to understand was that, as in dating, the most popular profiles get all the matches. And even the senior job vacancies seem to function in the same way – as a frantic, ill-considered rush. Real jobs, working for good employers.
